A realisation I had today after much psychological struggle:

I need Resistance. Resistance is crucial. I need someone/something to push towards me, so that I can push back. If I have it easy and everything seems easy, then, problems arise.

To develop you need resistance.

The most visual illustration I can think of is weight lifting.If you lift air, your muscle doesn’t grow. To grow muscle you have to lift weights, you need resistance. When you become accustomed to the weights you need to up increase them, if you want to grow even more muscle.

It is the resistance that forces your effort. You need to develop energy to resist the resistance. And in doing so, you grow.